For those of us who came of age watching (and then re-watching) Titanic, the scene where Rose and Jack have sex in a car was a major moment in our sexual awakening. That unrealistically graceful maneuvering between positions in the confines of a backseat! That heavy breathing! That handprint! But as soon as we had the chance to try it out ourselves, we very quickly learned that the steamy Titanic car sex scene was just another example of movie magic. In reality, things get a little more complicated (so many limbs, so little room in the backseat of a Honda Civic). As a result, automotive intimacy can be decidedly less sexy IRL. Knowing how to have sex in a car takes practice. On the plus side, that practice is pretty fun.
Especially now that you’re a parent, you may want to spice up your sex life and the monotony of your usual sexual routine. Maybe even add a new type of escapade to the repertoire. Enter: car sex. But either through experience or hearsay, you know it’s not as comfortable as sex on a soft mattress. Luckily, there are a few ways around this. Here are some tips for how to have sex in a car that will make the whole experience a lot hotter.
What are the best car sex positions?
Not all positions translate from the bedroom to the automobile, so save the Lotus and the Spread Eagle for the mattress.
If you’re opting for the passenger seat, recline it and try Cowgirl position — either regular or reverse — or Missionary. Getting busy in the backseat gives you more options because you can lie down a bit more (note for parents: if you can remove the car seats, you should). Then you’ll have space for Doggy, the Om, and the Reverse Scoop, according to Women’s Health. Also, don’t forget oral sex! Going down on your partner in the backseat can be really hot and fun.
What are the best cars for car sex?
Obviously when it comes to car sex, you can only be so picky. “Your place or mine?” applies to cars, too, though. So, when you’re trying to choose whose car to violate, there are a few things to consider.
Your first choice should always be a truck if one of you drives one. Even if it’s not a giant extended or crew cab, they generally offer more room. Trucks have more cabin height, which is a bigger necessity than you think. They also have bench seats, more open foot areas, and, as previously mentioned, beds. Those same reasons are why an SUV is your next best option.
Deciding between a minivan and a sedan? Answer this: Are you taking the kids to school tomorrow in that van? If so, go with your car instead. No matter how careful you are, sex always leaves evidence: a smell, a stain, a forgotten undergarment, or heaven forbid, a condom.
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Get comfortable.
When it comes to car sex, finding a position and getting comfy (well, as comfy as possible) is key. The idea here is to maximize the little space you have. “Recline the seat back as far as it goes, have it lying all the way down, or try having sex in the trunk or the bed of the truck for added comfort,” relationship coach Carmel Jones tells Cosmopolitan.
Keep it quick.
There are times for long, drawn-out sex sessions… and then there’s car sex. As Amanda Chatel writes for Bustle, “Typically, cars are for quickies, so it’s best to go into the experience with speed in mind. This works well if you’re looking to hook up with your partner on your lunch break, or before heading back home to your parents’ house after a date. But speed is also helpful when you don’t want to get caught, which is something you’ll definitely want to avoid.”
But be mindful of how fast you move.
Even if you’re using the car to squeeze in a quickie, you don’t want to move so fast that the entire experience is a literal pain. In the heat of the moment, a gear shift jabbing you in the backside could very well be a real consequence. Prior to getting hot and heavy, take a mental inventory of potential hazards: the emergency brake, the gear shifter, that overhead light, et cetera.
The passenger seat is your friend.
Obviously, the sprawling real estate the backseat offers is best. But if yours is taken up with car seats, toys, and hundreds of stale Cheerios tucked between the cushions, then you have to improvise. Between the passenger side and driver’s seat, the former is the most comfortable choice for getting down. Lean the seat back as far as it goes and have your partner climb on top. You can’t go buck wild with fancy positions, but the tight quarters will lead to a more intimate romp.
Clothing choice matters here.
Car sex is frequently spontaneous, but if you’re planning on having it, dress for the occasion. No, we don’t mean a fancy outfit — more like garments that make you and your partner easily accessible. Examples include dresses or skirts, or pants with an elastic band. It’s all about quick and easy access.
Sexy lingerie is sexy alright, but garter belts, extra strappy thongs, and mesh bodysuits can wreck your momentum and have you wasting precious minutes fidgeting with buttons, zippers, and clasps. If you still want to go the lingerie route, go for crotchless undergarments and easy-to-open fasteners.
Park somewhere private.
Sure, part of the thrill of car sex is the possibility of getting caught, but in reality, you really don’t want that to happen. Having sex in public is a misdemeanor in most states. Play it safe by waiting until it’s dark outside and parking somewhere secluded (like, umm, your garage if you’re a parent). But first, make sure the kids are asleep and the garage door is closed. You can still have the excitement of car sex but without the threat of arrest. A win-win.
Put up the sun shade.
Tinted windows will help you be discreet, but don’t forget to put your sun shade in the windshield too. It’s the biggest window into the action, and the one that’s least likely to have a dark tint on it. Cover that sh*t up.
Play with the mirrors.
Does it turn you on to watch yourself during sex? Well, people have mirrors on their bedroom ceilings for a reason. If you’re trying to peek at what you and your boo look like from different angles, tilt the car mirrors toward you whenever you’re having the show. They can give you a great view of yourself and your partner from many different angles.
Keep it in park.
Getting or giving head while driving might seem like a cool idea… but it can also be incredibly distracting to the driver (for obvious reasons). Above all, you want to be safe and make it home. With that said, keep all cunnilingus and sexual activity reserved for when the engine is off.
Use the seatbelts to your advantage.
Into bondage? Seatbelts are used for more than just safety. Remember to stay in-tune with your partner’s boundaries and limits during this sex-tracurricular activity, but use those certified straps to tie your hand to the car seat or to just restrict your movement as your partner takes over. The small space and limited mobility can actually make penetration pretty intense.
Sunroof fun, anyone?
If your car has a sunroof, put it to use. Not only is this a super cool feature on the car, but it can also be super helpful during fellatio. First, make sure both of you aren’t in a super public space (preferably nighttime). Have your partner stick their head and upper half out of the sunroof, which gives you direct access to their privates. Things can definitely get intense when it’s just you down there, especially since you’d have complete dominion of their lower half. Just make sure they don’t accidentally hit the sunroof close button in their excitement!
Seriously, though, why have sex in a car?
It generally comes down to two reasons: Either it’s something both you and your partner generally enjoy (you naughty little exhibitionists, you), or you literally don’t have another choice. You might be parents and the car you’re having sex in is (off) and parked in the garage — but, hey, it’s far enough away and soundproof enough to allow you a few minutes of quality time without waking up the kids. Or maybe you’re in the hot-and-heavy dating stage where everything is a turn-on, but your parents are visiting from out of town and staying in your guest room. Parking the car somewhere remote sounds much more appealing than trying to get it on under the same roof, yeah?
